That Dreadful Time of Year

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It’s starting to get warmer outside, and I’m starting to get lazy. The lake is calling my name everyday saying, “Kayte, ignore your homework and come take a swim.” If you’re like me, at this time of year, is awfully dreadful because I’m just waiting for summer to come. I’m starting to get super lazy with my schoolwork and I have a hard time going to class. This all sucks because I’m looking forward to summer, but I’m taking 4 summer classes. I have caught myself slacking though, and I have some pretty good ways of keeping myself on track.

Your Planner Is Your Best Friend

I am serious when I say this! If you don’t have a planner, make sure to get either a weekly or daily one, so you have more room to write. I got my planner from Paper Source this year, and even though it’s super pretty and girly, it doesn’t have what I prefer (I like lines). I’ve sucked it up though, and I try to use it everyday. I write all my due dates, plans, work schedule, you name it! I also like to color code the things and I got these pretty neat planner stickers for Christmas (THANKS MOM!). For me, I need a paper planner, because I remember the things I write, but if you prefer your phone then go ahead! My planner has helped me so much in college.

Surround Yourself With Motivated People

Surrounding yourself with people who want to do well, is something majorly important. They will influence you, even if you don’t know it. I am very competitive and if I am always trying to out-do the people around me with grades. Your friends can even motivate you to do your homework. This has happened many times when one of my friends wants to go out, but I say I have things to do, and we end up going to the coffee-shop to do our homework together (it’s not always me initiating it though, we all influence each other). Actually, as I’m writing this, I really don’t want to go to the gym, but my friend wants to go and I’m meeting her up in an hour (you see…MOTIVATED!).

Visualize What You Want

For me, my goals are to be happy with my body, stay healthy, not regret my grades, and try to work more. This is all super difficult to do at the same time. As a full-time student that also works part-time that wants a rockin’ bod and also is in a loving relationship but wants to get sleep still…THIS IS HARD!!! I try to take my goals one step at time. My health (sleeping, eating, and exercise) will always come first. I think I have to be healthy and energized before I can accomplish anything else. My next thing to focus on is school, since this kinda determines my future. It’s hard to prioritize things, so I visualize what I want and need. I visualize being skinny and living a healthy lifestyle. I visualize a diploma in my hand. I visualize a happy and loving relationship. I visualize finding a worthy and good paying job. These are only some of the things that I visualize everyday, and hope to see them soon. This is such a big motivation to me.

 

These are some of the steps that get me motivated everyday. If it seems hard to get out of bed, imagine in that moment what you want in the future, and if it’s really worth staying in bed instead of going to class. I only have 5 more weeks and I’m done with my spring semester, and will start my summer classes. This motivation has to keep going, since my next break will be that month for winter break (oh jeez!!!). I hope this helped and thank y’all for reading (:

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Rules Are There For A Reason

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I almost died the other day, and this isn’t me over-exaggerating.

I was running late to meet Mason so we could carpool to class together (that’s what we get for signing up for a class at the wrong campus) and I was taking my usual route. The traffic at this one light was insanely backed up, something I have never seen before. I moved from the left lane to the right, since it was a car shorter and I was on a time crunch. This was probably the best decision I have made in a while, because if it wasn’t for impatient Kayte, I would’ve died. I was texting Mason that traffic was bad when all of a sudden I heard a loud BOOM. I looked over to my left and the brand new van (to the person, new paper plates but older van) that I was just behind had gotten hit by a big truck. The van was hit so hard that it wrecked the car in front of it, and the van was absolutely totaled. This truck must’ve been going over the speed limit to have caused that, and I would like to think they were texting and driving, but I don’t know. That could’ve been me in the accident, but I would’ve gone flying out the window because I didn’t have my seat belt on.

This happened a week ago and it was such an eye opener. Now, the first thing I do is put my seat belt on when I get in the car, because that didn’t happen half of the time. Wearing a seat belt is super important and it’s the LAW, so please do it! I have learned my lesson for sure.

 

Over the Honey-Moon Phase

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I went to Six Flags Over Texas with my boyfriend, Mason, over spring break. I noticed this couple that went on the first 3 rides we did; they caught my eye because of how lovey-dovey they were. I looked over at Mason and I noticed we were standing there, comfortable with each others presence, but not totally on each other like this couple was. It hit me-WE ARE OUT OF THE HONEY-MOON PHASE. 6 months later and I thought we were still as touchy and in that puppy love stage as day one, but man was I wrong. I also noticed as we slept that night, we didn’t cuddle anymore. This took me by total shock and I turned to Mason and cried, “We’re a boring old married couple now!”

I love my relationship, it’s so unique and has so much joy and comfort built in with it. This kind of relationship is something that I have never had. It saddens me how we aren’t so hands-on anymore, but it’s made me realize that we’re going to be together for a long time. Who knows, maybe I might marry the guy one day, but that’s something only the future knows.

I realized that people my age crave the attention and the touchiness all the time and I often see things on social media like, “If he stops giving me the attention he used to, I will find someone else.” Now, I don’t know how people last in relationships if that’s the case because I know for a fact Mason and I have changed and matured as a couple insanely, and one of the things is being more independent. I know I’m with him all the time, but it’s more of a comfortable “I want to be with you for my pleasure.” than the “I can’t get enough of you and I need you now” kinda thing.

Being out of the honey-moon phase sucks, but I’m with someone who is worth it 110%. It is something I will miss but hey, maybe if I marry him, we’ll have the actual married couple honey-moon phase again!

 

TEENAGE CRISIS

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IS THIS A MID-LIFE CRISIS?

 

Oh no, it’s just a life crisis I am facing as a 19 year old! I’ve lost friends, gained weight, and I’m basically jobless. What more could go wrong?! Sometimes, I just feel like giving up, because it’s easier.

Don’t Give Up

You have to work hard through things you feel like you can’t control, because you may end up doing the right thing and fixing the problem. If you work hard to find a job, you’ll get one. If you work hard to lose weight, you will. If you work hard to get an A on a test you feel you know nothing about, you’ll do it. Time is valuable and you don’t want to feel like you’ve wasted it by giving up. Quitters never prosper.

You Have Support

Even when you feel like nobody is there for you, you’ll always have somebody. I’ve learned my family is my biggest support system and my boyfriend is always there to keep me going. If you feel differently, find a teacher, friend, or even a group to confide in and they will support you. Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you. Deut. 31:6

Follow Your Gut

If your gut tells you something is important, WORK FOR IT! I’ve learned my gut is always right. Even if something seems irrational or out of your hands, your gut feeling knows what’s up.

You’ve Faced Your Past Problems

so do it now! I know it seems like absolutely everything can seem like it’s going wrong, but face one thing at a time and it’ll go away. You’ve had past problems you’ve resolved and you’re going to have problems now and in the future, it’s called life. Life can kick me in the ass sometimes, but I’m thankful to wake up every morning.

 

Through many nights of tears and hopelessness, I’ve learned it’s not fun to be unhappy. Get out of bed, get encouraged, and go do what you have to do to make you happy!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

UN-Friended

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I just started college and I would have never thought I would find some toxic people. Growing up, I encountered some people that have treated me poorly, and as I gave them more chances, the worse the mistreatment got. I have learned throughout the years to STOP giving people the chances they don’t deserve and 110% remove them from your life because you will find better people. I just got out of some friendships I had adored and cherished so incredibly much. It’s been 3 months, and trust me, it still hurts. It hurts like a romantic breakup. I have given so much time, effort, and trust into these relationships to get trampled on, and I knew it was enough. 110% they are out of my life through my decision, and I know it hurts now, but it was for the better. I know there are better people out there for me.

Block Them

This seems like the silly way out, but trust me, it’s worth it. Block them from your Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, phone,  EVERYTHING! Every time I had troubles with people, my mom told me to block them. This seemed really silly but the tip was incredibly useful. I personally reach back out to people, because I miss them, and blocking them won’t allow me to do that. Or I’ve had some cases where they try to come back to see and silly little me allows them back in my life. NOPE, NOT TODAY OR EVER AGAIN! The block button is a useful and powerful button

Find New Friends

In desperate times, you’re going to want someone outside of your family to talk to. A friend’s shoulder is sometimes the best to lean on. Go out and be social, which is tricky for some people, I get it. I’ve learned to open up more and talk to the people around me in my classes and do the usual, “Let’s hang out sometime or do homework together! Here’s my number…” This is how I’ve made so many of my friends recently.

Be Happy

If you have a fallout with someone, they might want to see your life go downhill. Don’t let that happen! Reader, you’re a great and beautiful person! It’s okay to be sad about losing someone but DO NOT let that prevent you from being overall happy.

 

I am a strong believer that everything happens for a reason and if God took people out of your life, it’s okay because His plans are so much better than you dream. Romans 8:18  “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.”